Why Is It Hard to Put the Phone Down at Night
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Most people know this moment well. You climb into bed, you tell yourself you will check your phone for five minutes, and then you look at the clock and an hour has gone. You are not even enjoying it any more. Your eyes feel heavy, your neck aches a little, and you know you should sleep, yet your thumb keeps moving. You open one more video, read one more comment, check one more message, and the night slips away. In the morning you feel tired and a little annoyed with yourself, and you promise that tonight will be different. Then tonight comes, and the same thing happens again.
There is nothing strange about this, and it does not mean you are weak or lazy. A phone at night is hard to put down for real reasons, and those reasons are easy to understand once you look at them one by one. The phone is built to keep your attention. The night is quiet, so there is nothing else competing for it. Your mind is tired, so it reaches for the easiest thing. And sleep does not arrive on command just because you close your eyes. This article explains, in simple words, why the phone feels so hard to put down at night, what late-night scrolling does to your mind and your next day, and why trying harder is rarely the answer. It is general information only, not personal advice, and if sleep or tiredness is troubling you a lot, a health professional is the right person to talk to.
The Last Check That Turns Into an Hour
The trouble usually starts with a small, harmless plan. You pick up the phone to check one thing: a message from a friend, the weather for tomorrow, a video someone sent you. That one thing takes less than a minute. But the phone does not stop there. After the message there is a photo, after the photo there is a comment, after the comment there is a short video, and after that video the next one starts before you have decided whether you want to watch it. Each step is tiny. None of them feels like a decision. That is exactly why the time adds up so fast.
Think about how a normal evening works. During the day, your time is divided by other things: work, cooking, talking to family, walking somewhere, doing chores. At night, those divisions disappear. The house is quiet, the work is done, and there is no next task waiting. The phone fills that empty space, and because it never runs out of new things to show you, there is no natural stopping point. A book ends a chapter. A television programme ends and the credits roll. A phone feed does not end. You can scroll for ten minutes or two hours and the screen will look almost the same, always offering one more thing just below the last one.
The other part of this is that the phone is always within reach. It sits on the pillow, on the bedside table, or in your hand. You do not have to get up, turn on a light, or go to another room. When something is that easy to reach, you do not need a strong reason to pick it up. A small feeling is enough: a little boredom, a little worry, a little restlessness. In the daytime you might ignore that feeling because you are busy. At night, in a dark room with nothing else to do, that small feeling is the loudest thing in the room, and the phone is the quickest answer to it.
It also helps to notice that the “last check” is rarely the last check because of the way messages and updates work. Someone replies while you are reading. A new post appears at the top. A notification lights up the screen. Each new thing feels urgent, even when it is not. A message from a friend feels like it needs an answer now. A news headline feels like something you should know now. In the daytime you might see these things and move on, but at night they land in a quiet mind with nothing to balance them, so they feel bigger than they are. The result is a loop: check, find something new, check again, find something else new. The loop only breaks when you get so tired that your eyes close on their own, and by then the night is mostly gone.
Why Your Brain Loves One More Video
To understand why one more video is so hard to resist, it helps to understand what your brain is doing when you scroll. Your brain likes new things. It likes small surprises, small laughs, small pieces of news, and small answers to small questions. Each short video or post gives it a little of that, and then the next one promises a little more. It is the same feeling as opening one more packet of crisps when you are not really hungry any more: the next one might be the best one, and stopping now feels like missing it.
This is also why short videos are harder to stop than a long film. A film asks you to sit still for two hours and follow one story. A short video asks for thirty seconds, and then offers another thirty seconds, and then another. Each one is a fresh start, so you never feel the weight of a long commitment. You can tell yourself, truthfully, that you will stop after the next one. But the next one is always short, so the promise is always easy to make again. After twenty of those small promises, an hour has passed, and you have not really chosen to spend it. You have just kept choosing the next thirty seconds.
There is another pull at work too: the feeling of finishing things. People like to finish what they start, and a feed makes finishing impossible. There is always one more comment to read, one more reply to check, one more update to see. Your mind keeps waiting for a point where everything is caught up, a point where there is nothing left to see. That point never comes, because new posts arrive all the time, even in the middle of the night. People in other time zones are awake, posting and replying while you lie in bed. So the feeling of being behind never fully goes away, and the phone keeps offering you a way to catch up that never actually works.
It is worth saying plainly that this is not a fault in you. Phones and apps are designed by large teams of people whose job is to keep you looking at the screen for longer. The colours, the sounds, the way the next video starts by itself, the way a notification appears at just the right moment: all of that is planned. When you find it hard to stop, you are not losing a fair fight. You are up against something that was built, very carefully, to be hard to stop. Knowing that does not make the phone easier to put down on its own, but it does take away the shame, and shame is a bad teacher. People who feel ashamed about scrolling tend to scroll more, not less, because the phone is also where they go to feel better. Understanding the design helps you see the habit clearly, and seeing it clearly is the first step to changing it.
Light, Sound and the Feeling of Being Awake
The phone does not only hold your attention with what it shows you. It also changes how awake your body feels, and this is one of the least obvious parts of the problem. When you lie in bed in a dark room, your body is getting ready for sleep. The room is cool and quiet, your breathing slows, and your mind starts to let go of the day. Then you turn on a bright screen a few inches from your face, and that message changes. Bright light tells your body that it is still daytime, or at least that it is not yet time to sleep. The screen is small, but it is close, and in a dark room it is the brightest thing you can see.
Sound adds to this. A video with music, a voice message, a clip with sudden laughter: all of these wake your mind up a little more. Even silent scrolling is not really silent, because your mind is reading, reacting, and thinking. You might read a post that makes you laugh, or one that makes you annoyed, or one that reminds you of something you forgot to do. Each of those reactions is a small burst of wakefulness. A calm mind drifts towards sleep. A mind that is laughing, worrying, or planning stays awake. The phone keeps giving your mind new things to react to, so it never gets the quiet stretch it needs to drift off.
The position of your body matters too. When you sit up to read a book, you can feel yourself getting sleepy, and you can put the book down and lie flat. With a phone, you are already lying down, often on your side, holding the screen close to your face. There is no change in position to mark the moment when reading should stop and sleeping should begin. The phone blurs that line. You are in bed, which should mean sleep, but you are also awake and busy, which means the opposite. Your body gets mixed messages, and the busy message usually wins, because it is louder and more interesting.
There is also the simple fact that the phone keeps your eyes open. Sleep needs your eyes to close and stay closed. Scrolling needs your eyes to stay open and keep moving. As long as you are scrolling, you are practising staying awake, not falling asleep. This sounds obvious, but it explains why “just five more minutes” so often becomes an hour. You are not failing to fall asleep. You are actively doing something that keeps you awake, and expecting sleep to arrive anyway. Sleep rarely works like that. It comes when the mind is quiet and the body is still, and a phone in your hand is the opposite of both.
Boredom, Loneliness and the Quiet of the Night
It is easy to think that late-night scrolling is only about the phone, but often it is about the night itself. Night is the quietest part of the day. The house is still, the messages slow down, and for the first time all day you are alone with your own thoughts. For some people that quiet is peaceful. For others it is uncomfortable. Thoughts that were easy to push away during the day come back at night: a worry about money, a disagreement with someone, a task you did not finish, a feeling you did not have time to feel. The phone is a quick way to push those thoughts away again, because it gives your mind something else to look at.
Boredom plays a part too, and it is a part people often miss. Lying in bed waiting for sleep is boring. Nothing is happening, the room is dark, and sleep is not coming yet. The phone ends the boredom at once. It offers colour, sound, jokes, news, and people, all in one small screen. It is no wonder that a bored mind reaches for it. The trouble is that the phone ends the boredom by keeping you awake, so the boredom is replaced by tiredness, and tiredness is replaced by a worse morning. It feels like a solution in the moment, and it acts like a problem over the whole night.
Loneliness is another quiet reason. At night, many people feel alone, even if they had a busy day full of people. The phone offers company without the effort of a real conversation. You can watch other people living their lives, read their jokes, see their photos, and feel connected without saying a word. That feeling is real, and it is not foolish. Human beings want company, and at midnight the phone is the only company available. But the company it offers is one-sided. You are watching other people’s lives instead of resting for your own. In the morning, the loneliness is still there, and now you are tired as well.
This is why telling yourself to “just stop” so often fails. The phone is not only a habit. For many people it is also a way of coping with a quiet room, a busy mind, or a lonely feeling. If you take the phone away without giving the mind something else, the quiet comes back, and the mind reaches for the phone again. A better approach starts with noticing what you are actually reaching for. Are you bored? Are you worried? Are you lonely? Are you simply not sleepy yet? The answer is different for each person and each night, but asking the question is useful, because it turns the phone from a mystery into a message. The phone is telling you something about the night, and once you hear what it is saying, you can answer it in a kinder way than scrolling until your eyes close.
How a Late Night Changes the Next Day
The cost of a late night with a phone is rarely felt at night. It is felt the next morning, and it is felt in small ways that add up. You wake up tired, even if you slept for seven or eight hours, because the sleep you got was broken and shallow. You press the snooze button more than once. You move slowly through your morning routine. Your first cup of tea or coffee feels less like a pleasure and more like a rescue. By mid-morning, your eyes feel dry and your head feels heavy, and you reach for your phone again, this time to get through the tiredness, which is a strange circle: the thing that kept you up is now the thing you use to stay awake.
Thinking clearly is harder after a short or restless night. Small decisions take longer. You forget little things: where you put your keys, what you were about to say, why you walked into a room. You read the same line twice. You feel more impatient with people, and small annoyances feel larger than they should. None of this means you are a bad person or a poor worker. It means your brain did not get the rest it needed, and a tired brain works more slowly. This is normal, and it is one of the most common results of late-night scrolling, even though people rarely connect the two. They blame the morning, or the work, or the weather, when the real cause was the glowing screen at one in the morning.
Mood is affected too. After a bad night, people often feel lower, more worried, or more easily upset. Things that would normally pass without notice can feel heavy. A message that would usually make you smile can feel sharp. A small problem at work can feel like a large one. This is partly because tiredness lowers your patience, and partly because of what you were looking at late at night. If the last thing you saw before sleep was an argument in a comment section, a sad piece of news, or a photo of someone else having a better life, that feeling does not simply vanish when you close your eyes. It follows you into your sleep and into your morning, even if you cannot name it.
Over weeks and months, this pattern can settle into a routine. You scroll late, you wake up tired, you feel low and unfocused during the day, and by evening you are too tired to do anything interesting, so you pick up the phone again because it is easy. The phone becomes both the cause of the tiredness and the cure for the boredom that tiredness brings. Breaking that circle is not about one perfect night. It is about noticing the circle itself. Once you see that the tired morning and the late night are connected, the late night stops looking like free time and starts looking like borrowed time, taken from tomorrow.
Why Willpower Alone Rarely Works at Midnight
Most people who struggle with their phone at night have already tried the simplest solution: they have told themselves to stop. They have made promises, set mental rules, and felt determined in the evening. Then midnight comes, the determination fades, and the phone is in their hand again. This is not because they are weak. It is because willpower is at its lowest late at night, and the phone is at its strongest. Willpower is like a muscle that gets tired through the day. By the evening, after a full day of decisions, work, and self-control, there is very little of it left. Asking a tired mind to resist a bright, interesting, always-available phone is asking a lot, and it usually fails.
The setting makes it harder. At midnight, you are lying down, your body is tired, your mind is less sharp, and the phone is inches away. There is no one watching, no one to remind you, and no reason to get up. In that setting, the easy choice and the tempting choice are the same choice. Willpower works best when the hard thing is also the easy thing, or when you have changed the setting so the tempting thing is out of reach. At night in bed, neither of those is true, so willpower alone is a poor tool for the job.
Another problem with willpower is that it depends on a clear decision, and the phone avoids clear decisions. You never decide to scroll for two hours. You decide to check one thing, then you decide to watch one video, then you decide to read one more comment. Each decision is small and easy to say yes to. Willpower would need to win twenty small fights in a row, and it only needs to lose one of them for the night to slip away. That is a very hard way to win. A better way is to have fewer fights in the first place, by changing something about the evening before the fights begin.
This is also why guilt after a late night rarely helps. Guilt makes you feel bad, and feeling bad makes you reach for comfort, and the phone is the quickest comfort available. Many people wake up after a late night, feel annoyed with themselves, promise to be stricter, and then repeat the same night, because the promise was made in the morning, when willpower was fresh, and it has to survive until midnight, when willpower is gone. A kinder and more practical approach is to stop blaming yourself and start changing the evening itself: where the phone sleeps, what time it goes there, and what you do instead. Those changes do not need willpower at midnight, because they are made earlier, when you are thinking clearly.
What a Calmer Evening Can Look Like
A calmer evening does not have to mean a strict set of rules or a phone locked in another room, although for some people that helps. It can start with one small change, made early in the evening, before tiredness takes over. One common change is giving the phone a place to sleep that is not your bed. If the phone charges on a table across the room, or in another room entirely, picking it up at midnight takes effort. You have to sit up, get out of bed, and walk to it. That small effort is often enough to break the automatic reach, because the reach was never a real decision. It was just the easiest thing your hand could do.
Another small change is choosing a time when the phone goes away, and keeping that time the same every night. It does not need to be early. It could be half an hour before you plan to sleep. The point is that the time is decided in advance, when you are thinking clearly, not at midnight, when you are tired. When that time comes, you put the phone on charge and leave it there. The first few nights feel strange, because your hand still reaches for it, and your mind still wonders what you might be missing. That feeling passes. After a week or so, the evening starts to feel quieter, and the quiet starts to feel normal instead of empty.
What you do instead of scrolling matters just as much as putting the phone down. If you put the phone down and stare at the ceiling, the boredom will bring you back to the screen. So it helps to have something simple ready: a book, a few pages of a magazine, a short walk around the house, a glass of water, a few slow breaths, a short note in a diary about the day. None of these needs to be exciting. In fact, it is better if they are a little dull, because dull things let the mind slow down, and a slow mind is a mind that can fall asleep. The goal is not to replace the phone with another exciting activity. The goal is to give the evening a gentle ending, so sleep can arrive without a fight.
It also helps to look at the evening as a whole, not just the last hour. A day with no fresh air, no movement, and no real conversation often ends with a mind that is restless and a body that is not truly tired, only worn out. A short walk in the evening, even ten minutes, can make a real difference to how sleepy you feel later. Talking to someone properly, instead of only through a screen, can ease the loneliness that the phone was filling. Eating dinner at a regular time and not too late can help the body settle. These are not tricks. They are the ordinary parts of a day that make the night easier, and they work slowly, over days and weeks, rather than all at once. A calmer evening is built, one small piece at a time, and it is worth building, because the nights that follow are kinder, and the mornings after them are easier too.
My Take:
If you ask me why it is so hard to put the phone down at night, my honest answer is that the phone is doing exactly what it was made to do, and the night is doing exactly what nights do. The phone was made to keep your eyes on it, and the night is quiet, dark, and empty of other things to do. Put those two together in the hands of a tired person lying in bed, and the result is not a mystery. It is almost certain. I do not think this is a story about weak people. I think it is a story about a strong design meeting a tired mind at the worst possible hour, and the tired mind losing, night after night, for reasons that are easy to see once you look at them plainly.
I think the first thing to give up is the idea that you should be able to beat the phone with willpower alone at midnight. I have seen too many people make a firm promise in the morning and break it by midnight, and then blame themselves for the break. The promise was made when they were rested and clear-headed. The break happened when they were tired, lying down, and a bright screen was inches from their face. Those are not the same person in the same situation. They are two different states, and the tired one cannot keep the rested one’s promises. If your plan depends on being strong at midnight, it is a bad plan, not because you are weak, but because midnight is the wrong time to ask for strength.
What I would do instead, and what I think works better, is to make the decision earlier, when I am thinking clearly. I would decide, in the early evening, where the phone will sleep tonight, and what time it goes there. I would put it on charge across the room, or in another room if that is possible, and I would keep that time the same every night so it becomes a habit rather than a daily argument. The first few nights would feel strange, I am sure. My hand would still reach for the phone, and my mind would still wonder what I was missing. But I think that feeling would pass, because it is not a real need. It is a habit, and habits fade when they are not fed. After a week, the quiet of the evening would start to feel normal, and normal is a much better place to fall asleep from than the middle of a video feed.
I also think we should be honest about what the phone is giving us at night, because it is giving us something real. It is giving us company when we feel alone, distraction when we feel worried, and entertainment when we feel bored. Those are real needs, and it is not foolish to have them. But I think the phone meets those needs in the cheapest possible way, and the price is paid the next morning. Real company is a conversation with a person. Real relief from worry is talking about it, writing it down, or letting it wait until morning. Real rest from boredom is a book, a walk, or simply lying still and letting the day go. The phone offers a copy of all of these, and the copy is bright and easy, but it leaves you more tired than before. I would rather have the real thing, even if it takes a little more effort, because the real thing does not steal from tomorrow.
There is something else I want to say, and it is about the mornings. I think the morning is where the truth about the night shows up, and most of us do not look at it honestly. We wake up tired, we feel slow and irritable, we forget small things, and we blame the morning, or the work, or the weather. But the morning is only telling us what the night did. If I scroll until two in the morning, I have not had a free evening. I have borrowed time from my sleep, and my body collects the debt in the morning. Once you see it that way, the phone at night stops looking like a treat and starts looking like a loan with a high price. I do not think you need to give up the phone entirely. I think you need to see the price clearly, and then decide, with open eyes, whether the last hour of scrolling is worth the first hour of the next day.
I also believe that the design of the phone deserves to be named, because naming it takes away its power. The next video that starts by itself, the notification that appears at just the right moment, the feed that never ends: none of that is an accident. It was built by people who are very good at their jobs, and their job is to keep you looking. When I remind myself of that, I feel less ashamed and more clear-headed. I am not losing a fair fight. I am playing a game that was designed for me to keep playing. And once I see the game, I can step out of it. I can put the phone across the room. I can choose a time when the screen goes dark. I can pick up a book instead. None of those are dramatic acts. They are small, ordinary choices, and that is exactly why they work. They do not need willpower at midnight. They need one clear decision, made earlier, and kept.
I want to say something about the quiet of the night too, because I think it is the part people talk about least. Night is quiet, and quiet can be uncomfortable. Thoughts that were easy to avoid during the day come back when the house is still. A worry about money, a disagreement, a feeling you did not have time to feel: all of it waits until night, and then it knocks. The phone is a quick way to stop hearing the knock. But I think the knock deserves to be heard, at least for a moment, because it is telling you something true about your life. You do not have to solve everything at midnight. You only have to notice it, perhaps write it down on a piece of paper, and let it wait until morning. That small act, writing it down, can be enough to let the mind rest. The phone, by contrast, does not let the mind rest. It gives it more to think about, more to react to, more to carry into sleep. I would rather write one line on paper than read a hundred lines on a screen.
If a friend asked me what to do about this, I would not give them a long list of rules, because long lists do not survive midnight. I would give them one thing to try for a week. Put the phone on charge across the room, half an hour before you plan to sleep, and keep a book by the bed. That is all. Do not try to fix everything at once. Do not try to be perfect. Just try that one thing, and notice how the mornings feel after a week. If the mornings feel a little easier, keep going. If they do not, try a different time, or a different place for the phone, or a short walk in the evening. The point is not to win a battle with the phone. The point is to build an evening that ends gently, so sleep can arrive without a fight, and the morning can begin without a debt.
I also think it is important to be kind to yourself about this, because unkindness does not help. If you have spent months or years scrolling late into the night, you will not change it in one evening, and you should not expect to. Habits that were built over a long time take time to change, and a few bad nights along the way do not mean you have failed. They mean you are human, and the design you are up against is strong. What matters is not one perfect night. What matters is the direction you are moving in. If you are putting the phone down a little earlier this week than last week, that is progress, even if the night is not perfect yet. Progress is quiet, and it is easy to miss, but it is real, and it adds up.
There is one more thing I want to be honest about, and it is about who should get more help. If late nights are leaving you very tired most days, if you cannot sleep even when you put the phone away, or if worry and low mood are following you through the day, that is not something to solve alone with a new bedtime rule. That is a time to talk to a health professional, who can look at your own situation properly. General information in an article can explain a pattern, but it cannot replace a real conversation about your own health. I would rather say that plainly than pretend that a phone charger across the room can fix everything. It can help a lot, but it is not a cure, and anyone who tells you otherwise is selling you something.
So here is my final view, in plain words. It is hard to put the phone down at night because the phone is designed to be hard to put down, because the night is quiet and empty, because your willpower is lowest when you need it most, and because the phone meets real needs in a cheap way that costs you the next morning. None of that makes you weak. It makes you a normal person in a difficult setting. The way forward is not to try harder at midnight. It is to change the evening earlier, when you are thinking clearly: give the phone a place to sleep away from your bed, choose a time when the screen goes dark, and keep something gentle by the bed to take its place. Try it for a week, notice your mornings, and be patient with yourself. Sleep is not a battle to win. It is a quiet arrival, and the best thing you can do is to make room for it, one small change at a time.
I also want to say something about the evenings themselves, because I think we forget how much of life happens in them. An evening is not only the time before sleep. It is the time when the day is reviewed, when families talk, when a person sits quietly and lets the noise of the day settle. When the phone takes the whole evening, that quiet review never happens, and the day ends without an ending. I think a phone-free half hour gives the day its ending back. It lets you think about what went well, what did not, and what tomorrow might hold, without a screen telling you what to think about instead. That small space, even twenty minutes of it, can make the night feel complete in a way that two hours of scrolling never does. And a day that ends properly is a day that lets you sleep properly, because there is nothing left hanging, nothing left unanswered, nothing left to chase into the night.
One more thought, and then I will stop: I think the best test of any change is not how it feels on the first night, but how it feels on the seventh morning. The first night of putting the phone away early will feel strange, and you may lie awake wondering what you are missing. The seventh morning, after a week of earlier nights, will feel different. You will wake up a little clearer, a little calmer, a little more ready for the day. That is the test I would trust, because mornings do not lie. They tell you, plainly, what the night did. If your mornings are getting easier, the change is working, even if the nights still feel a little strange. Keep going. The strange feeling fades. The easier mornings stay, and they are worth more than any video you missed at midnight.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does it hard to put the phone down at night usually last?
The scrolling itself can last anywhere from a few minutes to two or three hours, and the tiredness it causes usually lasts into the next morning. Most people find that the habit is not a single bad night but a pattern: late nights lead to tired mornings, tired mornings lead to dull evenings, and dull evenings lead back to the phone. The pattern can go on for weeks or months unless something in the evening changes. The good news is that the pattern can also change in the other direction. A week of putting the phone away half an hour earlier often makes mornings noticeably easier, and easier mornings make the next evening easier too.
Can it hard to put the phone down at night be linked to sleep or tiredness?
Yes, very closely. The bright screen, the sounds, and the constant new things to react to all keep the mind awake when it should be slowing down, and that makes it harder to fall asleep and harder to sleep deeply. Tiredness also works the other way: when you are already tired, your willpower is lower and the phone is harder to resist, so a tired person is more likely to scroll late, which makes them more tired the next day. If you are often tired during the day, the late-night phone is one of the first things worth looking at, although it is not the only possible cause, and lasting sleep trouble deserves a conversation with a health professional.
When should I speak with a healthcare professional about it hard to put the phone down at night?
Speak to a health professional if late nights are leaving you very tired most days, if you cannot sleep even on nights when you put the phone away early, if you feel low or worried most of the time, or if tiredness is making daily life, work, or driving difficult. Also speak to one if you snore loudly, wake up gasping, or feel sleepy during the day despite getting enough hours in bed, because those can be signs of something that needs proper checking. This article is general information only, and it cannot replace a real conversation about your own health.
Is it hard to put the phone down at night something I should worry about?
For most people, no, it is a common habit, not a sign that something is seriously wrong. Almost everyone has stayed up too late with a phone at least once, and most people do it regularly. It becomes worth taking seriously when it happens most nights, when you feel tired and unfocused most days, or when it starts to affect your work, your mood, or your relationships. Worry itself is not helpful here. Noticing the pattern clearly and changing one small part of the evening is far more useful than worrying about it.
What can I do in general when it hard to put the phone down at night happens?
In general, the most useful step is to change the setting before midnight, not to rely on willpower at midnight. Put the phone on charge away from your bed, choose a time each night when the screen goes dark, and keep something gentle by the bed, like a book. A short walk in the evening, a regular dinner time, and a calm last half hour can also help the body settle. Try one change for a week and notice how your mornings feel. If the pattern continues despite these changes, or if tiredness is affecting your daily life, talk to a health professional.
Why does it hard to put the phone down at night happen to me?
It happens because several things come together at night: the phone is designed to keep your attention with endless new things, the night is quiet with nothing else competing for it, your willpower is at its lowest after a full day, and the bright screen keeps your mind feeling awake. It can also be about what the phone is filling: boredom, worry, loneliness, or simply waiting for sleep that has not come yet. None of those reasons means you are weak. They are ordinary reasons, shared by a very large number of people, and they point to practical changes in the evening rather than to a fault in you.
